This is my favorite part:
Don't cling to things, because everything is impermanent...
But detachment doesn't mean you don't let the experience penetrate you. On the contrary, you let it penetrate you fully.
If you hold back on the emotions--if you don't allow yourself to go all the way through them--you can never get to being detached, you're too busy being afraid. You're afraid of the pain, you're afraid of the grief. You're afraid of the vulnerability that loving entails. But by throwing yourself into these emotions, by allowing yourself to dive in, all the way, over your heard even, you experience them fully and completely, that's how you are able to leave it..." Morrie